Often times sex is thought of as one very specific act that happens between a heterosexual couple and involves (there’s no other way to say it) penetration. But this is only one form of sex and when thought of in this way can be incredibly limiting, not to mention excluding to a lot of people.
For example if every time you engage with your partner you feel like you have to have penetrative sex you may be less likely to engage at all. That is a particular energy and a particular feel. Instead, consider all the other ways you could connect with your partner in any given encounter. All the ways you could experience pleasure. Also consider your needs at that moment. Is your need for connection or physical touch or a release or to simply to have fun? Let your needs help you to navigate how you want to play. This can lead to more connected and intimate encounters that take the pressure off of performing or expectations of things needing to be a very specific way.
So there you have it. You may have been expecting tips that gave you specific moves or adventurous positions and while that can be fun, it doesn’t really get to the root of how to transform our sex lives. Most of it has to do with how we think about and approach sex as well as how we feel about ourselves. As we start to shift our understanding and begin to educate ourselves more about our bodies and what they are capable of a world of possibilities open up and sex can shift from something we keep neatly nestled away into a pleasure filled experience we can’t wait to talk about.
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The above photo of Brittany was taken by Photographer, Nick Antony, check out more of his work on Instagram or his website.
Illustration by the very talented Anjelica Roselyn. See more of her work on her Instagram and website.